As a matter of fact, I preferred it that way. I wanted to rely on myself alone, not bother anyone, not need anyone to get involved. I was doing fine with this philosophy for years. I wrote and edited and rewrote all on my own, bumping along in a quiet, solitary manner, sending stories and poems to literary magazines, receiving rejections, jumping up and down with my beloved cat whenever an editor wrote me a note or I won a contest. Kim Catanzarite “What does this mean? Are you famous yet?” my husband would sometimes tease.
He isn’t a writer, so I forgave him. But the fact remained: I wasn’t taking any sizable steps forward in my writing career.
Fast-Forward to the Present
I was lucky enough to stumble upon a writing partner in 2019—her name is Tricia. Since then, my go-it-alone mindset has made a 180. Our association started as a client-professional relationship that quickly segued into a writer friendship. To date, we have beta-read each other’s novels, helped each other with various marketing pieces, shared all sorts of knowledge and information, and supported each other on the unpredictable journey called “the road to publication.”
Today I feel very strongly that everyone needs a Tricia in their life. Not only because she has become a close friend, but because we all need a person to brainstorm with and ask questions of and get advice from. Someone who listens to your failures and your worries and your trials and tribulations—and shares theirs, as well. A friend to inspire you to take those big steps forward and to celebrate your small wins without asking whether you’re famous yet.
A fellow writer is really the only kind of person who will totally get your introverted, borderline hermit lifestyle; your publishing dreams and nightmares; the need for continuous creative energy to complete a novel or collection of short stories or poems or essays—in other words, your drive to get the work done.
It Can Be Anyone
This writer friend doesn’t have to partake in your genre or be your age or live in your state. They don’t even have to be in the same point in their writing journey. You might be on the brink of publishing a novel, and they’re learning how to better use POV. You might meet at a conference or at an online forum. They might start out as a beta reader, and, before you know it, you’re emailing each other every day about copyediting issues and how your children don’t respect the “Come back at 5 p.m.” sign hung outside your door.
Tricia helped me gain the confidence I needed to publish my book. She made me realize that this was something I wanted to do and that I could do—and should do. If I had still been the lonely, isolated writer I used to be, my novel would to this day remain a Word file itching to escape the […]